Are you feeling lost, or do you feel like your life lacks purpose? Not sure what your mission on earth is? Confused about your calling? Want to contribute and help others but don’t know how? Or maybe you’re just looking to make a transition in your career or even open up your own business but don't know what direction to take?
Do you want to have a greater understanding of your life's greater purpose? Find a career that fulfils your greater purpose? Find greater meaning and purpose in your current career? See the greater meaning in the experiences in your life? Live in alignment with your true self? Replace limiting beliefs with empowering beliefs? Create the life of your dreams?
If that’s how you feel, then I suggest you pull out your journal and pen, and continue reading this article.
More than a decade of experience trying to find my own purpose and helping others find theirs has helped me identify the 7 steps to the discovery process.
INSIGHTS FROM CHILDHOOD
The first step to discovering your purpose is to take a trip down memory lane into your childhood. Why? It is because you were born with a purpose. You are here for a reason. Your presence matters. Nothing is a coincidence. When you were born, your purpose was stored safely into your heart, and it was shining bright, but over the years, as a result of social conditioning and circumstances, that light has dimmed. We want it to shine bright again, so we have to shed layers and unlearn.
Journal prompts to reflect on:
- As a kid, what was my favourite memory?
- What game did I love to play?
- What was my favourite toy?
- What was my favourite compliment that I ever received?
Then, take it one step further and ask yourself why. This process requires you to question everything and to then allow the answers to flow through you.
The second step to discovering your purpose is to look at your passions. What is it that you love to do? There are many ways to help you gain insights into your passion, however, one of the most effective ways is the following.
Journal prompts to reflect on:
- How do you love spending your free time?
- What activities bring you joy?
- What topics and events bring you excitement?
- And lastly, if you had unlimited time and resources, so you did not have to worry about money, how would you be spending your free time? What would you be googling? What would you be looking in to?
Once you’ve written them down, ask yourself, how does this list make me feel? Go through every single one of your answers and observe the feeling that is created in your body. Remember, it is all about feeling high vibrational feelings throughout the journey, such as joy and excitement.
The third step to discovering your purpose is to look at your talents. What are you good at? One of the biggest misconceptions people have is that they think their passion alone leads them to their purpose. However, your purpose is where your talents AND passions meet. You not only have to love what you are doing, but you also have to be good at it.
Talents can be natural talents or experience talents; talents that you’re naturally gifted with or talents that you’ve learned and acquired over the years through your experiences.
Journal prompts to reflect on for your natural talents:
- What do you consider easy?
- What are you naturally good at?
- What do people come to you for advice or help with?
- And lastly, what could you never imagine charging people for because you feel like it’s too easy for you and it’s too natural for you?
Once you’ve written them down, ask yourself, how does this list make me feel? This whole process requires you to be in touch with your feelings and the sensations each idea creates within your body.
The fourth step to discovering your purpose is to look at your community. Jim Rohn has a famous quote which states that we are the average of the five people we spend the most of our time with, so it’s absolutely vital that we become intentional with our community and with whom we spend our time with.
Journal prompts to reflect on:
- Who is it that you’re surrounding yourself with?
- When you’re in their presence, how do you feel?
- When you leave them, how do you feel?
- What topics of discussion do you engage in?
- Are they limiting or empowering?
- Do they inspire you?
- Do you have shared goals and dreams?
In this step, it is important for you to take a moment and to ask yourself if you are willing to get intentional with your community, to ensure that the community that you choose will inspire you to walk confidently in the direction of your highest self.
DESERVE, DREAMS & DESIRES
The fifth step to discovering your purpose is to look at your three Ds, deserving, dreams and desires.
Deserve is to take a look at what it is that you deserve or believe that you deserve in life. Dreams are taking a look at what it is that your soul is trying to tell you and desires are about what you truly want in life.
The reason being that most of the time, we push back our true desires is because we believe that we are not worthy of them. Therefore, we want to get to the root cause of the block, and once we’ve discovered that, we then want to look at our dreams; what are some recurring dreams that I’m having? What is it that my soul and my subconscious mind is trying to tell me?
Lastly, we want to look at our desires. A great way to discover that is to ask yourself the following two questions:
- If you're put in a library, what type of books are you going to pull out?
- If you’re in a supermarket, what type of magazines are you most attracted to?
Once you have your answers written down, ask yourself the magic word, why.
VALUES & BELIEFS
The sixth step to discovering your purpose is to look at your core values and your beliefs.
Why are core values important? It is because these are the values that you stand for. They are powerful guides to your actions, behaviours, decisions and attitudes.
Your beliefs that you have about yourself, others, the world that you live in and your career, play a major role in your experience of reality. For example, if you believe that you live in a world where you are not able to practise your purpose and be successful, then your reality is going to reflect that. Once you've written down your list, go through them and ask yourself if each belief is limiting or empowering. If it is a limiting belief, then set an intention to let it go.
VISION & PURPOSE
The final step to discovering your purpose is to look at your vision. Vision is the modality you use to serve your purpose, and you can have numerous visions.
Knowing your persona is one of the ways to gain clarity into your vision. There are five types of personas:
- Connector: All about bringing people together and creating a community.
- Builder: The doers, the swiller workers. They are all about structure.
- Teacher: Loves to share knowledge and wisdom.
- Creators: The visionaries and innovators.
- Thinkers: The challenger seekers. They love to solve problems.
Once we know the personas that reason most with us, we have much more clarity when we’re thinking about our visions.
These seven steps will provide you with the insights you need to discover your purpose on your journey of self-discovery. Do not be who your parents, partner, friends want you to be. Take this opportunity to peel the layers of labels and social conditioning to get to your core essence, to who you were created to be. Do not for one second think that you must be imprisoned by who you were twenty years ago. Every moment is an opportunity for change and growth.
If you would like to dive deeper into each step and learn more about how each step correlates with one another, check out the 7-week self-paced online course at https://minutesongrowth.teachable.com
About the Author
Tannaz Hosseinpour, founder of Minutes on Growth Coaching, is a Dubai-based certified life coach specialising in mindset and relationships. She helps millennials manifest and cultivate empowered lives through one-on-one coaching, online programs, podcast episodes and social media content. She is the host of her self-improvement podcast, Minutes on Growth, available on Spotify, Apple and Google Podcast. She holds a Masters of Law degree in alternative dispute resolution, specialising in family mediation. Since 2017, she is also the CEO and founder of TP Education Consultants, an educational consultancy firm based in Toronto, Tehran and Dubai.