Regrets! We all have them and struggle with them. To live fully is to have regrets; they are an unpleasant, and very often an unavoidable part of life.
Wisdom rarely arises without realising how unwise or self-absorbed we’ve been. Good decisions grow out of the muddy waters of our bad decisions. Knowing what we know now, it’s all too easy to look back and wish we’d made different choices. One of the gravest disservices we inflict on ourselves is to judge the decisions we made then based upon what we know now. We only gain such knowledge through the portal of trial and error — and making mistakes.
Making space for regrets and being gentle with them is a step toward softening their hold over us. Affirming that it’s natural to have regrets may relieve some of the shame that keeps us frozen. However, I believe the best way to deal with regrets is to learn from them and use them as an opportunity for personal growth.
Learn, take action, forgive and look ahead.